The New Macho

He cleans up after himself.

He cleans up the planet.

He is a role model for young men.

He is rigorously honest and fiercely optimistic.

He holds himself accountable.

He knows what he feels.

He knows how to cry and he lets it go.

He knows how to rage without hurting others.

He knows how to fear and how to keep moving.

He seeks self-mastery.

He's let go of childish shame.

He feels guilty when he's done something wrong.

He is kind to men, kind to women, kind to children.

He teaches others how to be kind.

He says he's sorry.

He stopped blaming women or his parents or men for his pain years ago.

He stopped letting his defenses ruin his relationships.

He stopped letting his penis run his life.

He has enough self-respect to tell the truth.

He creates intimacy and trust with his actions.

He has men that he trusts and that he turns to for support.

He knows how to roll with it.

He knows how to make it happen.

He is disciplined when he needs to be.

He is flexible when he needs to be.

He knows how to listen from the core of his being.

He's not afraid to get dirty.

He's ready to confront his own limitations.

He has high expectations for himself and for those he connects with.

He looks for ways to serve others.

He knows he is an individual.

He knows that we are all one.

He knows he is an animal and a part of nature.

He knows his spirit and his connection to something greater.

He knows that the future generations are watching his actions.

He builds communities where people are respected and valued.

He takes responsibility for himself and is also willing to be his brother's keeper.

He knows his higher purpose.

He loves with fierceness.

He laughs with abandon, because he gets the joke.

This is the Mature Masculine - it is the redefinition of masculinity for the 21st century.

By no means is this list complete. You are welcome to come and add your gifts to this community. - Boysen Hodgson

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Just be.

I usually write my thoughts in my diary but it's about time I get use to blogging if I want you to understand where I coming from. I guess that's the point to writing one of these thing is so that my ideas, thoughts, and feeling are shared.  To start things off I guess I can begin with my upcoming trip the UK for my cousins wedding. It's been four years since I was there last and a lot has changed. Before I continue let me add that I have been Meditating for two years and during that time I have quit drinking alcohol and other unmentionables. It has made me see life in a new light by making me aware of what is affective in my life and what isn't. So with my trip to the UK should be an interesting one. I say this because EVERYONE in my family drink alcohol, minus one or two, and for me to show up at my cousins open bar wedding and not have a single drink should be interesting to say the least.

I don't know if it's the meditation or what but I have a strong belief that it goes well past will power. Since I called it quits I have been around it plenty of times but have not had the slightest urge to indulge. That band wagon has more than enough people on it. I don't think one less person is going to make a difference.

I have seem alcohol destroy families, homes, careers and end lives. I don't want to be a part of that. To each  there own. Don't let my words get in the way of you enjoying you sip of the bubbly. I hope that you the reader make your way through this life with an open heart and without judgement because that's the way life should be. Without judgement. Just be!

All you have to do is decide.

For many of us life can be very hectic and for many of us the focus is always on me and mine, which isn't bad to a certain extent. Where we fail is in the areas of planning ahead for tomorrow and the following days to come. Yeah we need to always remain in the present moment but keep in mind that if there is nothing in ours lives worth fighting for then there's no point. We end up moving through life like the zombies in a cheesy horror flick who only attraction is to what all the other zombies want. Every one of us has a dream but not every one of us takes the steps needed to make that dream a reality. Remember that a one thousand mine hike begins with the first step and all you have to do is decide, who your going to be, what it's going to be and how you are going to do it.

Out of the night that covers me,

Black as the pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance

I have not winced or cried aloud.

Under the bludgeoning of chance

My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears

Looms but the horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,

How changed with punishments the scroll,

I am the master of my fate,

I am the captain of my soul.

--William Ernest Henley

Be careful how you interpret the world: it is like that.

Don't you just hate it when your day gets off to a good start then meets that one event that turns that day to shit? Well that was my day today, but the feelings generated where not as bad as I thought. This last couple of months have seen days of great discoveries and realizations to the point where I am now viewing the world through a different lens and what I see is a lot of pain an suffering. The challenge for me is how do I stay motivated and hang on the the positive emotion charge without being stumped by certain events that bring me back to feelings of no hope. I guess that's where the discipline comes in to keep telling myself that it's all part of the process of growing. As long as I continue to find the Love in everything, speak from the heart and give without the thought of any return everything is going to fall into place as it should.

Be careful how you interpret the world: it is like that.
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Today is a new day, a new beginning.

I find it sad how people accept there fate not realizing that it's there lack of awareness in the everyday choices that they make. Today I had an interesting conversation with someone about the choices that they made that put them in the situation that they are in now and that it IS possible to change at any time regardless of age or "social status".
We are all making choices that we are unaware of and we sometimes don't realize it until it is to late. The good news is that we can awaken the sleeping dragon within us and bring to light all those choices that we are unaware of that we make even in our sleep.
Today is a new day, a new beginning. Choose to make it a success!

In the beginning there is the end.

Today marks a pivotal day for me when I came to the realization that we begin life with nothing. Born into this world with nothing but our flesh, bones, some hair and a beating heart which is constantly reminding us of the second hand on an old Grandfather clock ticking through each moment that leads to the unknown end of our lives where we leave this life with nothing. What we also have, that which we don't pay attention to, is our breath and emotional bodies that carry us though each and every moment of our lives. If you stop and think about it we enter this life and exit with nothing. So why not live this life to the fullest and feel all of those feeling that we over look as if it where a beggar on the street. Enjoy life to to the fullest by avoid the fear of fear, because what is fear anyway but a gateway to our growth or next step in our lives.

Get in touch with your emotional being and claim your birth right.